You do whatever it takes

As I write this blog my little man is or should be a sleep now for the evening. However I do have that doubt as he will tend to wake up just as we are about to go to bed. Today I remembered to change his nappy before putting him to bed, but last night was a totally different story. I forgot to change him before putting him to bed last night, so I tried to change him whilst he was asleep, but every time I would delicately turn him on his back to change the nappy he would roll over to his front, so I lift him out slowly keeping him a sleep to see if I have better luck changing him on the changing mat in his room. No joy. Finally I get the nappy on and almost completed when he weeps.

Oh no I cry in my head, please don’t wake, I continue in my head, as I know he will now play up and not go back.

He did and then had to spend the next 5 hours trying to get him back to sleep, thinking each time I had been successful, as I leave the room he screams. So I think, let him settle by himself as he can some nights. He doesn’t. So I decide to get him up and have him sit with me quietly for a bit. Try putting him back this time thought, yeah done it. So I get ready for bed, as soon as my head hits the pillow out cries my son. OH NO I CRY IN MY MIND PLEASE NOT NOW.

However the guilt of feeling like I being selfish wanting to be a sleep myself I get up and check on him.

This just makes him worth and now he creeps up to stand on the edge of his cot holding on the sides wanting to play.

I know it says in the books not to speak to him, but as soon as I tell myself no talking to him, the urge to talk to him rises so I do. I put on his disney music which we use to help him go back to sleep, sorry to those mums who disapprove of this but sometimes you do whatever it takes to get your little bubs to sleep. We think we have thankfully by 23:30 after two decaf coffees hoping he will settle he finally quietens, which we can hear through the baby monitor and think right lets get to sleep.

Don’t be fooled, as soon as I get into dream mode I am awake my son is crying again through the baby monitor. Do I go in or do I allow him to settle? I am contemplating this lying in bed, hoping he will quieten down but he gets louder, so I get up and go in, he stops climbs, and OH NO HE WANTS TO PLAY.

Finally it is midnight and yes he finally goes off to sleep for the night and yes I did play his music, but as said when tired you do whatever it takes.

I am relieved that I didn’t have to get up to do the 6:30am breakfast feed this morning, at least I get a lie in. Sorry to daddy but he gets the lie in the next morning.

To all mums and dads out there, you are fabulous and are doing a fab job, even though I know myself it feels like you can never win.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X


My son at 15 months

My son is now 15 months old and it is amazing to see him grow and see him changing it seems everyday.

He is almost saying mummy now, but knows very well how to say Dadda and says it as soon as he sees him. I though today I heard him say hello to the workman today, which I know it’s just a little word but the feeling is indescribable. He can run around in his walker, stand a little without holding on to anything, walk pushing his other walker. I love the big smiles I get and hugs, when I have been out as for example last Saturday I had a job interview and daddy looked after Henry. It was so lovely to see him give me that beaming smile as I walked through the door.

Fingers foods is getting tricky, he knows what food is when he sees it starts clapping his lips together in eagerness saying “Yes please” and he will happily eat most foods. He just won’t pick up the food to his mouth, he will play with it and then throw on the floor. As like most things it is a working progress, I am sure we will get there.

I am gonna try and put some food in his hand and show by taking the food in his hand to his mouth, but I know this won’t be easy as it will probably end up being a tug of war.

Weaning was tough at first as I would make fresh as well has already jar and pouch foods, and did feel disheartened when some of the fresh foods or more puree’s I had made he would turn his head away in protest. However I have come to realise that this is all part of his development and learning. They are human beings after all and won’t like everything. They learn to make choices at a very early age.

I would not replace it for the world, it was challenge at first being awaken every two hours, and then he did sleep for longer for a time, but then he began teething and it was back to short sleeps again, now though apart from a few nights as our boiler packed in and so had been very cold in the evenings and early morning, so had to buy and borrow a few heaters to warm our house up and his room, and yesterday he slept soundly until about 5am, which was fine, had to do 6:30 feed anyway and he had slept through the night and back to sleep this morning until about 10 this morning.

I am sorry now to those mums not so lucky, I was one of the babies until I was 6 years old, who cried and woke up every night.

I still struggle to sleep now but the person who has me moaning and nagging is my husband, sorry love.

It is ok to feel a little frustrated at times, and can feel that you are on a constant battle, of “Am I doing the right thin? Am I not?” but a lot is instinct and improvisation. I recommend joining a Mother and Toddler group as it is good to speak to other mums as you can feel a little isolated.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Coming back to wordpress

Hi everyone, I am back onto wordpress to blog.

I share this page with my other blog called The Parenting Adventures which is on WordPress and I have my own blog website I will combining these together.

So coming up in 2015 I will be taking Henry to a Mother and Toddler group tomorrow and see how it goes. I am a little nervous, plus I am starting a new Part Time job which I am looking forward to, and I also enjoy exercising, mainly running, training indoors and walking. I post about my training on the carrieshomemadelife website and on my wordpress site Sports Fitness Passion.

I do think it is important as a mum that I look after myself and set a good example for my son. Exercise trust me doesn’t have to be hard, going for a leisurely walk is exercise and really helps clear the mind. Since I have taken up running, walking and training indoors, which I do a mix of weights, abs, core, yoga and pilates, which I mix into an aerobic routine, I haven’t looked back.

You can go to the gym that is how I started but due to my budget being tight I haven’t been able to afford the gym and adapted my workout routine at home. I will give advice on how to work at home without spending any money at all.

Doing 10 minutes of exercise is still getting the blood pumping and will help with making gradual steps for you to be more fitter and healthier. Same with changing your nutrition too. A good diet is not doing a diet at all, but educating yourself on food, and this is where I think kids and adults who are not able to cook should be taught as this will help change your eating habits and see that healthy food doesn’t have to be boring and you can still have the things you love too.

There is nothing wrong with comfort food, but it is about moderation, how you cook the food and learning how to change your comfort food to a more healthier comfort choice.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

When Henry meet Jasper

Sunday 2nd February, my son meet my friend whom I have grown up with Hayley and Justin’s, baby son Jasper for the first time since they were both born exactly 1 month after apart. Henry on the 11th November and Jasper on the 11th December 2013. Uncannily they were both supposed to be born on the 9th, Henry the 9th of January and Jasper on the 9th December, and still they managed to be born one month apart from each other.

Here are some really lovely and sweet photos.

Henry unfortunately decided he would be grizzly through out most of the day, until we drove home afterwards. However it was so nice to have both babies meet at last.

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I can’t wait for them to meet again soon to see if they have caught up in size, it is amazing how two babies could be so different.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Henry at 3 months old and smiling


Today my son Henry James Challoner is 3 months old and what a 3 months it has been. He had grown and progressed everyday, he is now over 8 pounds and should be now almost coming up to 9 pounds. He is very vocal and demanding as he wants a lot of attention now and sleeping better through the night for about 6 to 8 hours which is amazing.

The loveliest sight in the world is when I first saw my son Henry smile and proper wide open toothless cheeky smile one early morning after his early morning feed. It was a special and powerful moment for me and words can’t really describe feeling.

From the baby who started his life in an incubator to the bouncy baby boy he is now has been a challenge but a joy at the same time and looking forward to the rest of his first year.

I would like to say thank you to all those whom have sent messages on Facebook, sent cards and gift for Henry in his first year, thank you for welcoming my son in his first year of life.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Henry’s first Christmas


Henry first Christmas and here he is in his little snowman’s suit, sorry about the grizzly face but he was due to be fed and so this photo was taken before his next feed. He was so good for most of the day, and was given loads of cuddles and beautiful gifts by his family and friends.



Here he is today in his other new Christmas suit, from his Untie Mary, Uncle Adam and Ollie.